Comparison, Insecurity & Ego…


Today is one of those days that I woke with a billion thoughts on my mind and most of it consists of ways to accomplish all these goals that I sometimes feel are haunting me. Being 24 year old creative thinker is a gift and a curse at times. I fell back into a trap and world wind cycle of constant comparison to my peers, checking stats and comments and just overall draining myself of my unique light. I’ll be honest this is something I’ve dealt with for years… From the beginning of my social media experience I’ve been having moments of “binge scrolling” & getting lost in the rabbit hole of comparison. It’s something so comforting about seeing people your age on the same level of success and similar struggles.

The second I got a glimpse of someone who seemingly has it all put together I found myself rolling my eyes, sucking my teeth and being annoyed by their success. I’d find myself thinking, “I could do that better, I’ve already did that….etc.” I know that the envious emotions I’m feeling are just insecurity and anxiety. Constantly wondering when will my time come. I haven’t felt this way in a while, but today I feel like that 15 year old girl obsessing over some random girl on MySpace because we’re the same age with similar hair and bodies… But somehow her life seems more “amazing” than mine.

Although it was hard for me to press publish on this post, I did it anyway because I want you all to know that we all have off days, insecure moments and times where we just don’t like the way we’re acting or thinking. Negative self talk is real and it really impacts your life. Although for a few hours I really got caught up in my mind and lost track of me. Now that I’ve experienced it, thought about and decided what needs to change I’m letting it go. We all have insecure moments no matter how “confident” our ego tells us we are. The key to getting through this is prayer and patience. I’m growing and this is just a part of the process.

Do you ever struggle with comparison? 




Healthy Eating// One Smoothie A Day…

Healthy Eating// One Smoothie A Day…

For the past week, Cecily & I have been on a  30 Day Challenge to help get ourselves back on track & living healthier lifestyles. One of the main things I’ve been doing throughout this journey is drinking smoothies. Smoothies are an easy & quick way to get a bunch of powerful nutrients in a short amount of time. 

The key is to stick to fresh vegetable & fruits. I prefer to drink mainly vegetable smoothies. Fruits are high in sugar and can cause weight gain if you are drinking them excessively.  

A Few Benefits of Drinking Smoothies

  • Helps improve overall appearance of your skin
  • Helps reduce bloating by removing excess waste from the body( in other words drinking a green smoothie every day will cleanse your colon)
  • Gives you more energy
  • Curbs appetite

My Favorite Green Smoothie

  • 1/2 of an avocado
  • 1 banana
  • 1 cup of spinach
  • 1 cup of kale
  • 2 celery stalks
  • 1 pineapple slice
  • 2 cups of water

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This is a recipe that I made up. I drink this smoothie at least once per day.  Usually when I wake up around 6:30 am, I’ll make this smoothie. This keeps me full until I get to work around 8-9.  Occasionally, I will switch it up and add a few cucumbers, use almond milk or an apple instead of a banana. The main ingredients that I try to stick to are Avocado, Spinach & Kale.

Why you ask?

  1. Avocado is a healthy fat. It helps keep you full longer and it has amazing anti- aging properties that are great for healthy skin. However, because it is high in fat I only use a small amount in my smoothies.
  2. Kale is low in calories, high in fiber and has zero fat. It’s also packed with iron, Vitamins and antioxidants.
  3. Spinach, similar to kale is loaded with vitamins & minerals.  It is also a great way to naturally boost energy levels.

I absolutely love this recipe. It is certainly something I look forward to each morning!

What are some of your favorite smoothie recipes? Let us know below.

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Natural Hair// Before You Get Box Braids

Natural Hair// Before You Get Box Braids

Three weeks ago, Cecily installed box braids into my hair. I had been lusting over this style for months prior to actually getting them. After, bouncing back & forth between marley twists and poetic justice braids I finally made a decision. However, my new style was very short lived. Although, I loved how easy this hairstyle was there were a few things that I wasn’t too happy about.
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Keep reading to learn about a few of the pros and cons of protective styling with braids. I’ve also added some helpfully tips at the end of this post as well, for those who may be considering this style.

Con #1 Breakage: Even though the idea of this style is to protect your hair, be weary of breakage! ​I noticed after about a week or so that the tension from the weight of the braids had caused the delicate hairs around my hair line to start breaking.
​Prevention Tip : When I noticed that this was happening I tried to wear my hair up in a loose bun more often to help relieve the some of the weight.

IMG_4168[1]Also a great tip to prevent breakage in this area is to moisturize the area daily. I used raw shea butter to slick my edges each morning, instead of gel this kept them hydrated and very soft.

Pro #1 Growth: Typically, my hair grows about 1/2 per month. Look at the new growth I got in just 3 weeks! This is at least an inch.IMG_4606[1]

Con #2: Sleeping with these braids are NOT FUN! They are extremely heavy, very itchy and uncomfortable. At one point I actually thought the hair was breaking out the side of my face. The easiest way to sleep with these would be in a huge bun or by pulling them in a low ponytail & tucking them into a satin scarf.

Pro #2: Versatility & Ease Being able to wake up and go was amazing. I was so happy that I didn’t have to style my hair every week. I’m sure my fellow naturals can relate to how frustating that can be sometimes. Although, this was a effortless style I could easily switch it up by simply changing my parting, adding a simple braid or pulling it up into a mega bun!IMG_4367[1]

Helpful Tips:

Hydrate-To keep the hair from feeling so itchy I would recommend spraying the braids with a light mist of warm water every couple of days.
Protect -Always wear a a silk scarf around your hairline when you are going to bed to prevent frizzing and breakage.
Nourish -Be sure to deep condition your hair before you get your braids installed. The process will put a lot of stress on your hair so I would recommend a deep condition & protein treatment to make sure your hair can handle it.
Don’t Scratch! -Although, it is tempting fight the urge by misting your scalp instead. Be sure to hydrate and oil your scalp. I like to use a mix of EVOO, castro oil & warm water. IMG_4838[1] This will prevent dryness, scalp irritation and those dreaded white flakes. Doing this will also promote hair growth!

Products I used daily to maintain my style:

Raw African Shea Butter (edges)
Water (all over)
Jane Carter Solutions Nourish & Shine (scalp)
Eco Styler Gel (edges)

“Overall, I loved these braids, of course every style has it’s positives & negatives. I wish I would have been a little more gentle on my edges, but aside from that I have no regrets! ”

Are any of you ladies planning to get box braids or do you already have them? Share your tips below. We’d love to hear from you!

Wellness//Meal Plan Ideas & Grocery List

Wellness//Meal Plan Ideas & Grocery List

Hey everyone, tomorrow kicks off the 1st day of our 30 day Challenge! We would like to thank everyone that has joined us.

For all the rules & more info about the challenge check out this post.Today’s post is all about healthy meal plan ideas.

One of the most important elements of this challenge is preparation.

Helpful Tips for Creating A Meal Plan:

  1. Give yourself a budget and write a list
  2. Website’s like Women’s Health Magazine have a bunch of easy healthy recipes. I would recommend researching “healthy meal ideas” and creating a list of the recipes you would like to try.
  3. Once you create a list of recipes, take a look at the ingredients and create a shopping list.

Here’s an example of a meal plan I am going to try for Day 1…


  • 1 Piece of Whole Wheat Toast w/ 2tbsps of Almond Butter
  • 1 Banana

Snack#1 // 2 Small boxes of Raisins


  • Gobble Guac Sandwich w/ Sweet Potato Fries (on wheat bread)

Snack #2// 25 Almonds


  • Shrimp & Broccoli w/ Brown Rice

Snack # 3// Plain Yogurt w/ Granola

Now that I’ve created my meal plan for the day, I’ll start adding items to a grocery list.

Grocery List

  •  Whole Wheat Bread
  • Bananas
  • Raisins
  • Sweet Potatoes
  • Avocados
  • Tomatoes
  • Onions
  • Hormel Natural Pre-Choice Sliced Turkey
  • Almonds
  • Almond Butter
  • Jumbo Shrimp
  • Broccoli
  • Brown Rice
  • Plain Yogurt
  • Honey
  • Granola
  • Garlic..etc.

By now, you should be able to understand how I am preparing for the challenge. If you decide to use this meal plan/ list keep in mind that it is okay to switch up your ingredients to match your liking. These are just examples! Cecily & I plan to create 7 days worth of meal plans and rotate these meals through out the entire month.

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